A Commitment to Myself (and to You)

I don’t know what’s going to happen today.
I don’t know how I’ll react to whatever comes my way.

I know how I want to react, but it may not happen that way.

What I do know is this:

No matter how today goes, I will lead with self-compassion.

I will not shame myself.
I will not speak to myself with hateful language.
And if I slip up, I will reflect, learn, and keep moving forward.

Everything I experience, good or bad, is part of the learning process.

Getting Back Up Is the Work

I will stay rooted in the truth that I can handle whatever today brings as long as I don’t give up on myself.

If I fall, I will get back up.
I will get back up quickly and keep going.

There is no secret formula to healing.

Healing is a daily battle.
A battle with thoughts.
A battle with the pull to return to places I’ve already fought my way out of.

Those thoughts will come.
They will try to drag you back.

Don’t let them.

This Is What Winning Looks Like

Some days you fight with everything you’ve got.
And some days you’re exhausted and think you can’t fight anymore—

And you fight anyway.

Just like a boxer gains strength through training and experience, you get stronger every time you show up.

Every time you get knocked down and stand back up, you get stronger.
Every time you choose to stay, even when you want the pain to end, you get stronger.

This is what winning looks like.
This is what healing looks like.

It’s messy as fuck.

Owning the Mess

If you think you’re alone… you’re not.
If you think your life is messier than everyone else’s… you’re wrong.

Mine was, and sometimes still is messy.

The difference now?

I’m proud of my mess.

I’m proud of myself for climbing out of the darkness and into the light.
My mess is mine, and I’m going to keep fighting.

I share my mess so you know you’re not alone.

Let’s Set Real Expectations

You’re not perfect.
You never will be.

And neither is anyone else, no matter what they post on social media.

Part of my role as a coach is to set honest expectations:

When you choose to heal, you’re choosing to go to war.

You’re choosing to return to the hell you’ve spent years trying to suppress and forget. And it will be anything but easy.

At times, it will feel like going through hell all over again.

You have to be prepared for that.

You Are Not Broken

I wasn’t prepared many times I tried to heal.
I thought I was broken.
I thought this was just who I was.

Many of us believe that.

But here’s the truth:

You are not broken.

You have a badass nervous system that has been doing its job, and doing it well this whole time.

It protected you.
And everything you’ve been doing has been about survival.

Healing Is Retraining, Not Forcing

When you start healing, you’re telling your nervous system it doesn’t have to live in survival mode anymore.

Don’t expect it to just lay down and quit.

It’s going to push back.

Healing is about slowly retraining the nervous system and creating new neural pathways. And that takes:

• Time

• Patience

• Compassion

You’ll think you can’t do it when it gets hard.

That’s not true.

You can do it, but not by forcing yourself.

Healing looks like:

• Push a little

• Back off

• Push a little more

• Back off again

Over time, safety grows.

One Last Thing

You are not alone.
You are not different.
And you deserve to heal.

Keep going.

Stay positive and take action!

Thank you for your support!

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NEW: I’ve started a private Facebook community called Survivor to Thriver Community: Healing, Support, and Growth. This community is by invite only. I want it to be a place where survivors can go to receive support from others that understand what they’re going through. If you’re interested, please send me an email at [email protected] and let me know you want to join and I’ll send you an invite.