Excuses are Ruining Your Life

I’m going to go on a rant this morning.

I got something to say and I’m pretty passionate about it.

I’m angry about it as well.

Not angry at you, but angry and what it’s doing to you.

Stop making excuses for your current situation.

What’s your excuse going to be today?

What’s your reason for not doing something you know you should be doing?

What was your excuse yesterday?

Let me guess, you’ll start tomorrow, right?

That’s fine, you can start tomorrow.

Hell, start next week.

Keep pissing your life away.

After all, you have a lot of time left, right?

Here’s the thing, I’m passionate about this because I was there.

I was the one making excuses every day and pissing my life away.

My biggest win was making it through each day.

That was it.

Now, I’m on the other side of healing.

I’m no longer wishing time away.

I finally bet on myself and tackled my trauma and found healing.

I’m here to tell you, you don’t have much time at all.

Now that I’m becoming the person I’ve always wanted to be, I’ve realized how short life is and how little time we have to make an impact.

If you’re reading this and have been through sexual abuse like I have, or experienced trauma from a different event during your life, it’s bullshit.

It’s bullshit what happened to you and I’m sorry it happened to you.

I’m not angry at you, I’m angry that someone stole your identity from you.

I’m angry that someone violated you in some way and it caused you pain, hurt, and to feel like you’re worthless.

I was angry for a long time because some guy stole my identity from me.

Some guy made me feel like I was worthless and was to blame for what happened to me.

This is simply not true, it’s the furthest fu*king thing from the truth.

I want you to get pissed off enough, so that you stand up for yourself and do something about it.

I want you to finally take a stand and become the person you were meant to become and find your healing.

I want you to stop using excuses and distractions to continue to believe the lies that came as a result of your experience.

This all starts with throwing the excuses out the window and getting to work.

The real work begins when you stop making excuses.

The real work begins when you stop using your trauma as an excuse to stay the same, to stay comfortable.

It’s not okay anymore, you have too much to offer the people in your life and this world.

I want you to stand up for yourself today and own your current situation.

You didn’t deserve what happened to you, but you own what happens going forward.

The best revenge against the people that hurt us is to start living a life that we’re capable of living.

You’re not a victim anymore.

You’re not a victim anymore.

It was not your fault that you were abused.

It was not your fault.

However, it’s your responsibility to do something about it now.

That’s on you.

You must stop making excuses, I’m living proof that you can overcome your trauma and change your life around.

Now, let me say this, I know it’s hard.

I know what it feels like to think that you can’t change, that this is the best your life will ever get, or that you were meant to be miserable.

It’s not true, it’s a lie, and you need to stop believing the lie.

I finally stopped believing these lies.

I will also be the first to tell you that you’re going to want to quit.

You’re going to want to run back to your comfort zone and crawl back to safety.

This is where the fight begins, this is where you will start fighting for your future.

You’re not always going to win these battles, but that’s okay.

You just have to keep pushing forward.

Keep fighting these battles.

Don’t quit.

Keep showing up and putting in the work and you cannot lose.

I need you to ditch the excuses today and start standing up for yourself.

You have a purpose while you’re here and it all starts with healing yourself.

What are you going to do today, make excuses, or start changing your life?

The choice is yours.

I’m here for you.

I know you can do it.

Stay positive and take action!

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