Harnessing the Power of Limiting Beliefs: The Wrong Kind of Beliefs That Must Be Eliminated

What are beliefs? In ‘Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself,’ Dr. Joe Dispenza says, “Your beliefs are the thoughts you keep consciously or unconsciously accepting as the law in your life. Whether you are aware of them or not, they still affect your reality.”

I conducted a search on Google for the definition of limiting beliefs and here’s what I found:

• “Mistaken assumptions or false beliefs that hinder a person from achieving their goals and living their best life.”

• “Any self-deprecating thoughts that hold you back from growing as a person.”

• “A thought or state of mind that you think is the absolute truth and stops you from doing certain things.”

I sum it up as thoughts or beliefs that prevent you from obtaining personal growth. One of our main goals in life should be to consistently strive for personal growth.

What’s unfortunate is that logically, there’s usually no proof that we’re incapable of doing something or achieving a goal, it’s our limiting beliefs that are stopping us from even trying.

However, the more we accept these limiting beliefs as law in our life, the more we will find ways to attach proof that these are true. The vicious cycle starts with a traumatic event, creating limiting beliefs based on survival, and then finding proof to justify these limiting beliefs.

My limiting beliefs all connect back to the sexual abuse I experienced at 15. After the abuse, the shame, embarrassment, guilt, all set in and had an effect on what I believed about myself. There were no proof that these beliefs were true, it was how I felt about myself due to the abuse.

As time went on, these beliefs continued to follow me throughout my teenage years, into my twenties, and thirties. I always found proof that justify my limiting beliefs.

If my wife provided me with feedback, I immediately thought, “I’m a piece of shit. I can’t do anything right and I’m never going to be able to change. Maybe this is the best I can ever be and should be happy with that.” I used this event as proof that my limiting beliefs were truth.

We start to find any reason or excuse to use as proof that our limiting beliefs are law in our life. This is very dangerous and it’s the most difficult to change.

They become unconscious thoughts and beliefs. The longer it goes on, the more the roots take hold in our soul. They start to become the fabric of who we are, and it only gets worse from there. This goes back to the definition of beliefs I shared with you in the beginning, “the thoughts you keep consciously or unconsciously accepting.”

Now for the good news. You can tell those limiting beliefs to go fu*k themselves and recover from all of this bullshit. You can stand up for yourself and start fighting back and I’m going to show you how.

It’s a simple five step process you can use to help you identify and eradicate your limiting beliefs. Now, that doesn’t mean it’s going to be easy. Remember, the longer you’ve had these beliefs, the deeper the roots.

The Five-Step Process for Eliminating Limiting Beliefs

The five-step process is Identify, Challenge, Reframe, Integrate, and Reflect.

Step 1: Identify

What have I said in previous newsletters? You must be aware of something before you can change it. Yes, this is common sense, but it took me a long time to really understand and use this piece of advice.

Think about an area of your life where you feel stuck or frustrated. Why do you feel stuck there?

List two to three beliefs you have about this area.

Where do you think these beliefs came from? (e.g., childhood, past experience, a comment from someone else)

Step 2: Challenge

In step 2, you’re going to challenge the belief.

Choose a belief that you identified from above.

Ask yourself the following questions:

• Is this belief always true?

• What evidence contradicts this belief?

• What is this belief costing me?

• What would I do differently if I no longer believed this?

That last question is the most powerful. This will lay out how removing this limiting belief from your life could change your entire life. You will finally get to see what you’re capable of achieving.

Step 3: Reframe

Write a new, empowering belief to replace the old one.

How can you remind yourself of this new belief each day? (e.g., post-it note, journal, affirmation, phone reminder)

Step 4: Integrate

In this step, you’re going to integrate the new belief with action.

What is one small action you can take this week that supports your new belief?

How will you feel after you take this action?

Step 5: Reflect

What did you learn about yourself in this process?

What surprised you?

How has your perspective shifted?

By using the process outlined above, you can start changing every limiting belief in your life and replace them with the truth, a truth that looks like this: “I have the power to change the story I tell myself. I choose to believe in my worth, my strength, and my ability to grow.”

Remember, this is a process and it’s important to take it one step at a time. You’re going to have setbacks and that’s okay. It’s important to have patience and compassion for yourself while you’re attempting to change your limiting beliefs.

The only way to fail is if you quit. Don’t quit, I believe in you!

Stay positive and take action!

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