It's Time to Live

What’s your biggest fear?

My biggest fear now is getting to the end of my life and having regrets for things I didn’t TRY to do.

Did you notice I didn’t say regrets for things I didn’t do?

I’m talking about regrets for things that I wanted to try but didn’t because of fear or self-doubt.

It’s difficult when we’ve experienced major trauma in our lives.

It’s difficult to even think that you can get back to a place where you have confidence again or think you can do something great.

However, you’ll never know until you try.

I’m going to tell you a fact right now, you are way more capable than you think, you just don’t give yourself a chance when you fail to try.

You see, fear and self-doubt are never going away.

They are always going to be there.

They are part of our survival instincts and they’re not a bad thing.

When the moment arrives where you must fight for your life or get out of a bad situation, they’re there to give you the strength you need to move.

However, we cannot live like this all the time.

We weren’t meant to live in a constant state of survival.

We were not meant to live with this “on” all the time.

You know, the fear, anxiety, worry, stress, etc.

Now what?

Well, since fear and self-doubt are always going to be present, why not take action anyway and see what the fuck happens?

What happens when you start doing something more and more?

It becomes your new way of thinking or being, right?

I remember in the Navy when I would deploy, it was difficult for the first two weeks.

After that, I accepted it as my reality for the next so many months and got used to it.

It became my new normal.

Taking action in the face of your fear and self-doubt and seeing what you’re capable of can become your new normal.

It will get easier over time and even become your default.

I think about this often now.

Picture yourself at the end of your life and think about what it will feel like if you have regrets.

Not only do you have regrets, but you can’t do anything about them at this point due to your physical health.

Think about the weight of having those regrets.

Think about it, whether it’s that business you didn’t start, the people in your life that you didn’t say ‘I love you’ to enough, the fact that you were too afraid to be your authentic self, the fact that you never tried to heal / change, etc.

Think about all of those regrets and really try to feel the weight of that.

I want you to feel the fear of not taking action.

The weight of regret is going to be a lot heavier than the weight of the fear and self-doubt you carry now.

How the fuck do you know if you can or cannot do something or if something is or isn’t possible if you don’t even try?

Let me save you the time, you can’t.

You do not know until you try.

If you try, you win.

You learn.

I don’t care if you fall flat on your face, you learn something and you have feedback to do it better next time.

Or, you know that you don’t want to pursue that anymore so you can move on knowing that.

That’s the power of taking action.

You get knowledge, feedback, and experience.

This is why we live.

We live to live.

We don’t live to stay comfortable and never be challenged.

No, we live to experience all there is to experience in life.

Life is meant to be experienced, and I can tell you from my personal experience, it’s much better when you get out there and experience it.

Stop thinking about retiring one day and not doing shit.

That’s not what we’re supposed to do with the time we have here.

If you’re hurting today, I’m sorry.

If you’ve experienced trauma, I’m sorry.

I don’t want you stewing in it like I did for 20 years and missing out on the best moments you can create in life.

Find your purpose, find what you want to live for and start living for it.

Use that trauma as your strength and help others fight through there’s.

This is what I decided to do with my experience going through sexual abuse.

I don’t want anyone else to have to go through what I went through.

I know I can help others through it, I know what it takes, and I’m going to do my best to help others not have to go through what I went through for so long.

You can do the same.

It’s time to start living.

It’s time to get dirty.

It’s time to get uncomfortable.

It’s time to start winning. 

Stay positive and take action!

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