Let's Get Real

I want to have a little heart to heart this morning.

I had another topic planned for today, but this was on my heart so decided to change direction.

I’m trying to wake up those that have been sleepwalking through life.

I’m trying to change the stigma around sexual abuse and give those that don’t feel like they have a voice, a voice.

I’m trying to reach those that are stuck in a victim mindset, blaming everyone and everything for their problems, but worst of all, letting their past trauma dictate how they live in the present.

This may be tough to hear, but that victim mentality and feeling sorry for yourself is only going to hurt you more and more the longer you hold onto it.

It feels like comfort because you get to blame all of your problems on your past, or the world being against you, or whatever reason you can come up with to feel better.

This mentality is slowly killing you.

In some cases, this means the difference between someone being here one day, and not being here the next day.

This was me for so many years. I wasn’t sure if I was going to be around tomorrow.

I spent way too many years blaming my past of sexual abuse for my current situation.

I was angry and thought the world was against me, and anything bad that happened to me was because someone was out to get me.

It’s that serious to me because I’ve been there.

I’m not about wasting my time or anyone else’s time.

You must make the decision to change your mindset.

You must be the one to say enough and I’m going to do something different today.

Nobody else can do that for you. It’s all on you.

Nobody can help you if you’re not willing to receive help.

I get it, you’ve been through some tough sh*t.

So have I and I spent too many years living in misery when I didn’t have to.

I didn’t realize that it was only a decision away.

I was only one decision away from completely changing my life.

That’s what I’m trying to get through to everyone that reads this newsletter.

You’re one decision away from changing the trajectory of your life.

That’s it.

You have the power to make that decision.

You may not feel like you have much power or control in your life, but you have the power to make this one decision that will change everything.

I don’t care where you’re from, what happened to you, what you believe, or whatever other excuse you can think of, you’re one decision away.

I’m tired of hearing about others taking their lives over sh*t that someone else did to them.

It’s not right and I’m trying to change that.

I was almost one of those and I look back now and shake my head.

I can’t imagine not being here today to be telling you what I’m telling you.

We need more people to heal and stand up for others that are stuck.

We need those that feel they don’t have strength or a voice, to make the decision to change, find their strength and voice, and fight back.

You’re so close to claiming your ideal future.

Again, it’s one decision away.

You’re worth it and you have a purpose, it’s time to find that purpose!

Stay positive and take action!

Thank you for reading as always! I appreciate your support!

Stay tuned for the Survivor to Thriver Coaching website coming soon!