“Know your worth.”
I see this phrase all the time on social media. While the message is meaningful, the truth is that it’s not always easy to understand, especially for those who have lived with trauma for decades.
How do you “know your worth” when, from the very beginning, you were taught that you had none?
For many survivors, worth feels like a foreign concept. When the people who were supposed to love us, protect us, and nurture us instead hurt us, neglect us, or traumatize us, it shapes the way we see ourselves. We come into this world dependent on our caregivers not only for survival, but also to help teach us who we are and whether we matter.
When those foundational experiences are filled with pain instead of safety and love, we often grow up believing:
“I’m not worth it.”
“I don’t matter.”
“Something is wrong with me.”
One of the goals of healing is slowly rediscovering our worth.
As healing unfolds, we begin learning the truth:
It was never our fault.
We did not deserve what happened to us.
We are worthy of healing, love, safety, and peace.
That realization rarely happens overnight. It takes time, patience, compassion, and repeated experiences that challenge the old beliefs we carried for so long.
But healing does happen.
There is only one of you in this world. That is not a coincidence. No one else has your story, your perspective, your heart, or your ability to impact others in the way you can.
Until you fully believe in your worth, try to simply accept where you are right now.
Accept that healing is a process.
Accept that growth is gradual.
Accept that you are learning.
You do not have to become a completely different person overnight. You only need to continue growing and healing a little more each day.
That’s it.
Radical acceptance of where you are now… while continuing to move forward.
Thank you for your support!
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NEW: I’ve started a private Facebook community called Survivor to Thriver Community: Healing, Support, and Growth. This community is by invite only. It’s a place where survivors can go to receive support from others that understand what they’re going through. If you’re interested, please send me an email at [email protected] and let me know you want to join and I’ll send you an invite.
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