The Question That Haunted Me: Why?

Why?
Why was I sexually abused?
Why would someone do that to me?
Why did I deserve it?
How could someone do this to another human being?

For years, these were the questions that consumed me.
I wrestled with them over and over, desperate for answers that never came.

And because I couldn’t find answers, I stayed stuck, drowning in shame, guilt, depression, anxiety, anger, and a deep sense of not knowing who I was anymore.

he Hard Truth I Discovered

When I finally started my healing journey, I realized something:
There are no satisfying answers to those questions.

It comes down to this, bad people do bad things to good people every single day.
That’s it.

There is no justification, no explanation, no excuse for anyone who sexually abuses another person.
It’s evil. Pure and simple.

And most importantly, it has nothing to do with us.

We were taken advantage of.
We were children (or young, or vulnerable) in toxic environments, surrounded by people who were supposed to protect us but didn’t.
It was never about us.

Letting Go of “Why”

When I stopped obsessing over the why and started focusing on my healing, everything began to shift.

I eventually understood the only “why” that mattered:
A predator took advantage of me.
He had been doing it to others for years, and I was simply the next victim.

That’s the why.
It had nothing to do with who I was or anything I did or didn’t do.

What I Want Every Survivor to Know

If you’ve experienced sexual or physical abuse, please hear this:
You did nothing wrong.
There is nothing you could have done differently.

You coped the best way you knew how at the time, you survived.
And that’s what survivors do.

It was never about you.
Let that truth sink in for a moment.

Stay positive and take action!

Thank you for your support!

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