Why I Love This Work

I enjoy working with clients not only because I love seeing them heal and make progress, but because I learn something from every single person I work with.

There is so much to learn about the nervous system and why we behave the way we do after trauma. I’m constantly researching, learning, and deepening my understanding of how trauma shapes behavior, not just for my clients, but for myself as well.

When Understanding Replaces Shame

One of the most powerful moments in this work is when I’m able to share new information with a client and see the light bulb turn on.

That moment when they realize:
“There’s a reason I’ve been acting this way for so many years.”

And just like that, something shifts.

They begin to understand that it wasn’t their fault and this is when shame starts to melt away.

It’s incredible to witness, and it never gets old.

Shame Is a Weight We Were Never Meant to Carry

Shame and guilt are powerful forces.
They become anchors we drag around for years, sometimes decades.

But when someone realizes that this weight was never theirs to carry, they can slowly begin to release it.

For trauma survivors, this is often a major breakthrough.

Once that realization happens, I continue reminding them of one essential truth:

You are normal.

You Are Not Broken, You Are Protected

So many survivors believe they aren’t normal because of what happened to them.
They believe they’re broken because of how they behaved after the trauma and how some of those behaviors still show up years later.

But the truth is this:

Your nervous system is doing exactly what it was designed to do, protect you.

It will continue to protect you until it learns that it is safe again.

Teaching the Nervous System Safety

The only way to teach your nervous system that it’s safe is to begin processing the trauma that was never processed.

And yes, this is difficult.

Most of us did everything we could to never think about it again.
We buried it.

But buried trauma doesn’t disappear.
It always finds a way back.

You can’t run from it forever.

Processing trauma is not about reliving the past, it’s about finally allowing your nervous system to complete what it couldn’t at the time.

This is how safety is rebuilt.

The Most Important Thing to Remember

This process takes time.
It takes patience.
It takes repetition.

But above all else, remember this:

You are normal.

Your responses make sense.
Your nervous system is not broken.
And healing is possible.

Stay positive and take action!

Thank you for your support!

Resources: For resources, my programs, or to schedule a 30-minute discovery call, visit my website by clicking here.

NEW: I’ve started a private Facebook community called Survivor to Thriver Community: Healing, Support, and Growth. This community is by invite only. I want it to be a place where survivors can go to receive support from others that understand what they’re going through. If you’re interested, please send me an email at [email protected] and let me know you want to join and I’ll send you an invite.