You Don't "Get Over" Sexual Abuse

You can’t tell someone who’s been sexually abused to get over it, think positive, or leave it in the past.

It doesn’t work that way.

When one person violates another in this way, especially when it happens repeatedly, it changes you at a level that only someone who has lived it can truly understand. What it does to a person is hard to put into words.

Healing Doesn’t Mean It Stops Affecting You

I openly share my story now, and sometimes that still amazes me.

I’m at a place in my healing journey where I can talk about my sexual abuse and coach others through their healing. That doesn’t mean I don’t still have moments.

I do.

There are times when it hits me hard: I was sexually abused.

The difference now is that I know how to deal with those moments.
They still come, but they don’t control me.

Shame and guilt still try to pull me down from time to time.
Embarrassment still shows up occasionally.

But I don’t give them the time of day anymore.

We Don’t Forget or Move On

This is something I want every survivor to understand:

We don’t forget.
We don’t “move on.”

Healing is not about erasing the past.

It’s about facing it, accepting it, and rebuilding our identity with it.

What happened to us will always be a part of who we are.
The scars, both internal and external, don’t disappear.

And that doesn’t mean we’re broken.

Strength, Survival, and Anger That Fuels Change

I’m proud to say that I’m still here, and stronger than ever.

That alone is a big fuck you to every predator who thought they could destroy someone and walk away untouched.

I’m angry, but it’s a good anger now.

I’m angry that so many survivors are still suffering because of what someone did to them.
I’m even more angry for the children who never had a choice.

Thinking about what they’re going through, and what lies ahead for them, breaks my heart.

My Vision

I will continue doing everything I can to:

• Empower survivors

• Help them find their voice

• Help them heal

• Help them see that they are stronger than their abusers ever were or ever will be

If I can help one person heal, and they help another, and that person helps someone else, that’s a chain reaction.

And maybe, just maybe, we can start healing enough people that we not only recover—but prevent some of this from happening in the first place.

That’s my vision.

Stay positive and take action!

Thank you for your support!

Resources: For resources, my programs, or to schedule a 30-minute discovery call, visit my website by clicking here.

NEW: I’ve started a private Facebook community called Survivor to Thriver Community: Healing, Support, and Growth. This community is by invite only. I want it to be a place where survivors can go to receive support from others that understand what they’re going through. If you’re interested, please send me an email at [email protected] and let me know you want to join and I’ll send you an invite.